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I love giving my wife oral, it was one of the first things I did for her first time we slept together. A weekly guide to improving all of the relationships in your life. But to get the most enjoyment from offering a oral sex to another person, one needs to be exceptionally mindful and present during the act. Get our newsletter every Friday! Allowing a space in a relationship for either partner to say no without consequence removes many unnecessary barriers regarding sex. So often people struggle to communicate about sex, particularly during sex. Many people would believe that for oral to be good, it would have to have the inevitable "grand finale," but this is not true.